Stop “Shoulding” On Yourself

I don't remember the first place I read or heard the phrase, "Stop shoulding on yourself" but it was big in the self-help circles I was addicted to (*ahem*), I spent my formative years in. The basic idea was that using "should" to describe all the things you weren't doing that you had been told … Continue reading Stop “Shoulding” On Yourself

Monday Notes: *When You Know Better

Beautiful way to begin the year, eh? Thank you K.E. Garland for such a poignant post.

K E Garland

img_5728When you know better, you do better, and when you do better, you have some semblance of clarity. You know yourself, and you no longer walk the fine line of being one type of person in public and an entirely different one in private. You learn that it’s either okay that you speak from your heart, or it’s not. You learn that people will be comfortable with who you are, or they will not. Either scenario is fine.

When you know better, you do better, and when you open your eyes and begin to see other people for who they are, instead of who you want them to be, then you can truly choose. You can choose to highlight the excellent parts. You can continue to allow the bad parts into your space and energy. Or you can determine if the good outweighs the bad. You can decide with whom…

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The Next Chapter – Mediation Month

From the lovely Wikipedia: Meditation can be defined as a practice where an individual focuses his or her mind on a particular object, thought or activity to achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm state.[1] Meditation may be used to reduce stress, anxiety, depression, and pain.[2] It may be done while sitting, repeating a mantra, … Continue reading The Next Chapter – Mediation Month

You’re Just Not Ready

In November, I invited everyone to a free workshop where we would begin working through a new system of identifying (articulating) what your true (authenticating) desires were. Four people registered, three showed up. I'd set up for twenty-five.  The next workshop is this Saturday. We're going to delve a little deeper in order to establish … Continue reading You’re Just Not Ready

Comfort Zones

Comfort Zones. What does yours look like? What does it have in it? I’ll show you mine first. Yes, it's a grave yard. Why? Because my comfort zone, as it’s most often used, is where my dreams / goals / aspirations go to die. Seriously. Grim, I know, but ultimately, inside my comfort zone I … Continue reading Comfort Zones

So, I Did a Thing…

On December 2nd, I stood on a stage, in a convention center in New York City, in front of over 2500 people (most identified as women and or were born female; there were maybe six cis-males) and caressed myself all over to the soulful, sensual sounds of The Art of Noise's "Moments in Love" - the exact version … Continue reading So, I Did a Thing…